What is jealousy?

healthy relationships

A complex emotion with feelings of:

  • suspicion 
  • rage 
  • fear of humiliation

It can effect people of all genders, ages, and sexual orientations. It can arise when a person perceives a threat to a meaningful relationship from another party. The threat may be real or perceived.

At the heart of jealousy is fear of loss. Loss of:

  • the relationship itself
  • self-respect
  • or ‘face’

Fear brings on insecurity. When fear lessens, jealousy lessens also. The opposite to jealousy is self-acceptance and love. 

Jealousy can be pathological. The signs of this are:

  • constant thoughts about their partner being unfaithful without proof 
  • controlling behaviours 
  • making unfounded accusations 
  • restricting or invading another’s privacy
  • threats to harm the self or others